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What makes some give up & others the drive to change the world?
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Has anyone seen the movie Alpha Dog? If not it’s a true story in which a young hard core addict owes his dealer $1200 . So the dealer kidnaps the guys little brother. He is seen by 39 people while being held. Actually developing what the 15yr old thought were friendships. They took him all over the place. The guy watching him keeps giving him the chance to escape.

The teen decides to stay so that his brother won’t get in any more trouble & he knows his brother will pay it. When the brother refuses to pay off his debt the dealer orders the child’s death. They make him hike up a hill to where his grave is already dug, they blindfold & bind him, slam him in the back of the head w a shovel & then shoot him. They close in the end of the movie w the Mom, who was beautiful, thin & young before this happened, now blown up, unkempt woman in a psych ward.

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She is a complete wreck, her son died for $1200,because his brother wouldn’t tell them what was really going on. I’ve seen this movie a million times, as sad as it is, I like the actors. I watched it a few weeks ago, now w a new perception of the ending.
As the mother gives her side of the story you realize she’s institutionalized, & she slips into madness. Watching this I realized as it hit me like a brick; that could’ve so easily been me. I could’ve made different choices.

That first night I had been awake since the previous morning so approximately 36 hrs w no sleep, while I was walking along the highway trying to burn energy. My gaze kept going from the skies to the huge trucks that kept passing, if my son had faced death, there was no reason why I couldn’t do the same. But I didn’t do it.

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On Monday, I was complaining to my husband that there’d been no response from God yet. Yes, I really thought I should’ve had my sign already. So he tells me to watch my bird feeders for a new bird because he knows Anthony & I used to watch the birds at our feeders in the mornings when he was young. I need to interject at this point, I had been awake for all but 2hrs of sleep since that Saturday morning til Monday night. I could not keep anything at all in my body. I was violently ill from everywhere. I was also sickly & so weak previous to this.

I got another 2hrs Monday night, actually early Tues morning & went to have my tea & *down swooped my very first wild bald eagle as it soared over the lake along the surface, I knew immediately that was my sign. When I talked to my daughter later that day, she said “omg, mom. We were out for a ride yesterday & there was an eagle over the car”…… 1200 miles away. On Wednesday my 6yr old grandson (Anthony’s son) saw it at his bus stop & on Wednesday Ant’s gf saw it 20 miles from where my daughter & grandson were.

That solidified my belief in God. I was still sick, I was getting calls from MA, forcing me to attend the wake & funeral. I had no money & my ex assured me his family was covering all expenses. I was so grateful for that. There was no way I could’ve paid, & definitely not my ex. But I was harassed by my ex’s sister, telling me how bad I looked to everyone & what a shitty person I was. I was so sick & dehydrated, but I had to go. On Tuesday & Wednesday. I repented all of my sins & forgave everyone I felt had ever wronged me. This great big weight was lifted from my shoulders that I no longer felt, it had been there so long. I made personal apologies to everyone, but most choose to not be in my life & that’s 100% OK w me. I needed to do that to move on.

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On Thursday I flew “home” to Mass, because I still could keep nothing down or in, I collapsed in the airport trying to get to my connecting flight. I had to be cleared by the EMT’s to fly on. I got into town w 3 hours to spare. Sick to be in my house 25’ from my backyard in MA is the cemetery. I coincidentally had met my son in the cemetery just before I moved. It was me, his sister, his son & his nephew. That’s the last time I saw him alive & when we parted ways it was w an I Love You from all of us to all of us. I was OK not attending these forced services I had no hand in arranging & so I just followed what had been set up. The first sight of my son’s body hit me like bricks dropped from a skyscraper & I dropped to my knees. I had a lot of family support, my aunt & cousins I hadn’t seen in yrs, my brother, my sister-in-law, close friends. It was a very large turnout.

My son lay there for all of those there to see, dead at 25.They cried the tears, they appeared to mourn. Yet the shit that took place, was so typical for that small dirty evil town. No one cared while he was alive, he was called names, ignored by the family & just never important to them.

Ant’s cousin is , who is also rumored to be on Heroin, did a deal at the wake. My ex was trying to score percocet for himself & Ant’s gf who was at that point 4 days into withdrawal. He was also trying to take her mother home w him, since his own girlfriend had to put her 3yr old to bed.

The “best” part of the night though for me was when I had gone outside looking for a friend & was told that this drunk “relative”, you know the type, mom’s friend ends up family. She didn’t know me or my ex & she most definitely did not know my son. She caused a scene in front of his casket, then progressed to driving by the funeral home & swearing & sticking up her middle finger. When I came out she had parked just a house up from us. I approached her & asked her to leave. She went crazy & tried to storm the funeral home. I had to have the police called.

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His service the next afternoon was beautiful I had decided I did not want to see him lowered into the ground, but tongues immediately began wagging, horrible mother, mean, evil, crazy.

Call me what you want I had already had my good bye in that cemetery in March. That is how I choose to remember my son. My ex’s family had everything removed from his plot….. Granite edging, toys I had put there from Aiden, trinkets, the money. Gofundme was set up & money taken by an aunt, an education fund set up, that has never been mentioned again. Everything my son owned that should have gone to my grandson was whisked away & hidden by my daughter & ex.

I left MA w no regrets that I would be away from the hellish drama. Florida is home now. I lay down to try & get some sleep, on the night that marked a week, Sunday. I lay down exhausted & closed my eyes.
That was the moment God took over!!!

Now back to Alpha Dog & that poor mother, some of us get the shit beaten out of us & just stay down. Not me, I have prayed for mental breakdown, it would certainly explain my experiences a whole lot easier. But, that is not what I am made of & God knew this when he healed me & gave me the ideas, the motivation, the drive & passion, to put it all out there. To dedicate myself to helping others & trying to change addiction/recovery stigma. This girl is on fire!!!
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Professional Family Recovery Coaches Making a Difference!

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Addiction impacts the whole family unit, not just the addicted family member. Who helps the family to heal while their loved one is in treatment?  How does the family unit learn about addiction, recovery, and how to change? How does the family learn new coping skills and not to enable addictive behaviors in the home? The family will need help just as much as the addicted member of the family when it comes to understanding and changing.

Think about the situation from this perspective for a moment. If you had a plant that was dying from a disease in the soil that it was planted in, you would change the soil and the pot that the plant was in. If the plant came back to full health within thirty days, you wouldn’t then put it back in the old pot and soil; that would be insanity!

Isn’t that what we do with a family member who goes into treatment? The addicted family member goes into a residential program for twenty-eight days and then they usually go home to the same environment. If the family unit has not changed and healed as a whole, we are putting the addicted family member back into an unhealthy environment.

Today we have professional family recovery coaches that work with the family to help them to understand the disease of addiction, the recovery process, the different modalities and styles of treatment, coping skills, enabling and defense mechanisms, sign and symptoms of addiction, and so much more. While the addicted family member is in treatment, the family recovery coach meets with the family and helps prepare them for the return of their loved one.  The coach helps the family unit to change and get well as a whole.

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There are also support groups like Families Anonymous and Al-Anon to give the families their own vehicle to change, their own program and fellowship of support. Addiction is very hard for everyone in the family; it works on everyone’s emotions. It’s amazing to watch families heal as a family unit; to see the anger leave and understanding take its place.

Professional recovery coaches can also help the family to make healthy choices while their loved one is in treatment and not participate in enabling behaviors. When the family has a professional family recovery coach to help them to achieve their goals and objectives, the coach can help them to get past any blocks or perception problems they may have. The coach utilizes specialized skill sets, tools, and core competencies that can help to improve the overall situation. The coach will help the family to complete a specific action plan to help them to reach their goals and objectives in a timely manner.

In many cases, the family is hurt and fearful because of the actions of the addicted family member. This often leads to anger within the family unit that needs to be healed to move forward. The family recovery coach has activities and exercises designed to help the family to let go of some of their old ways of thinking and get rid of past triggers.

In some cases, the family may need family counseling or therapy to be able to move past serious issues from family history, or mental health issues. In these cases, the professional family recovery coach will work with the counselor or therapist to help the family unit to heal. It’s important to understand that coaching is a client and results driven industry.  The coach is there to assist the family to reach solutions and achieve their goals.

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Our nation is in the middle of a drug epidemic that has already taken too many young lives. Professional family recovery coaches have already made a great impact on the success of the family with education, awareness, and prevention. These highly trained professionals have already been involved in helping to save many lives and helping to change the perspectives of many families so that they can heal. From referral through disengagement for both the addicted family member and the family, these professional coaches have made a big difference.

Imagine the fear a family faces when they find out that a family member is suffering from an addiction problem. These families no longer have to face this nightmare alone! There are also professional recovery coaches that work with the family member who suffers from addiction.

The coaching industry is booming right now; I’m not surprised! Everyone needs a little help every once in awhile; however, when it comes to addiction and families, there is no room for error. Professional Family recovery coaches help change and save lives!

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Have you ever thought about why a person struggling with an addiction would wait and not ask for help when they can reach out and get help now? When was the last time you added up the cost of your addiction? How long can you afford your addiction?
Below are three examples of real client stories and how waiting only added to their cost. The names have been removed for privacy. Notice how similar the stories unfold even though they have different choice addictions.
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Struggles with a gambling addiction that started several years ago. At this point there has been hundreds of thousands of dollars gambled away with a few wins to keep the addict believing the next win will be the jackpot. Unfortunately, Client #1 wasn’t ready until the spouse gave an ultimatum to either get help or stop gambling or the marriage would end in divorce. That is almost like having a gun put to a person’s head. So, think about this: What if your spouse told you to stop or else? Would you ask for help or get a divorce? Tell me more about your choice?
The added stress from a spouse can be helpful to motivate a person to ask for help, but most likely asking for help won’t be enough to just quit without a carefully designed plan. If a huge financial loss of money wasn’t enough to stop gambling – add the cost of getting divorced! Client #1 is looking for help to save the marriage but really doesn’t want to stop gambling. How long can Client #1 keep gambling in secret?  How much money would you choose to lose before you would get help to stop gambling and save your marriage?

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Struggles with drugs and alcohol addiction that has everyone in the family worried about client’s health and safety. Sadly the spouse moved out, hired an attorney and filed for divorce. Client #2 tried everything- even quit drinking cold turkey for ten weeks while trying to save the 20 year marriage. Unfortunately, his wife decided it was too late and she didn’t want any more of his false promises. She also said that she would rather live alone than be married to a drunk. Shortly after his wife moved out things only began to get worse. Why? Because Client #2 had nobody around to monitor his daily consumption that led to not being able to get out of the house for several days. This condition escalated to the point of exhaustion combined with a feeling of being paralyzed and depressed. He just stop caring about life while grieving over his loss. How many relationships and how much money are you willing to spend for your addiction?

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Struggles with over eating. About seven years ago client #3 notice his life changing after getting married. His lovely wife supported and loved him unconditionally as he grew larger weekly by 2-3 pounds until he slowly gained 100+ pounds of additional body weight over a seven year period. He wanted help to lose weight but felt it was impossible. Also, how would he medicate his stress if not eating those favorite foods in large quantities? It was obvious he wanted to commit to a plan that would help manage his food in a healthy manner. His wife prepared his meal at home as normal but Client #3 used food to medicate stress. He would pick up fast food on the way home to secretly eat in the car before going home to eat with his wife. As soon as he started chewing he felt immediate relief.

The food would reduce stress by activating the brain to trigger and release natural chemicals so that he would feel pleasure right away while preparing to eat again at home and repeat the pleasure. His wife never knew about his secret eating habit and the weight never really bothered her. She tried to cook him healthier meals but he continued to gain weight. When we met he shared that he was concerned that his weight was over 300 lbs. and he needed help. How much is his secret costing him? How much is your secret addiction costing you?

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Most clients agree their addiction slowly turns into an automatic response without thought to feed the cravings and activate the pleasure circuitry and feel good in the moment. (temporarily) This becomes the daily routine without questioning WHY do I keep doing the same thing every day without asking for help? Having this same daily unchanged pattern results in an out of balance lifestyle.

Have you set a stop using date yet? Hopefully you are looking forward to beginning detox, rehab and recovery soon. Think about how good you would feel if you respond sooner rather than later…Why Wait? We are talking about saving you time, money and a lot of suffering all at the same time. Respond only if you are interested in reducing the cost or saving your marriage, saving your job, lowering your chance for an accident or injury etc…

When fighting any addiction we must agree and understand the meaning of the word and how the addiction is overpowering when left alone or keeping the addiction hidden from family and friends only compounds the situation. We know how controlling the daily fight can be especially for those not ready for help. For example: An addict that is honest and seeking help will openly explain how everyday it is a challenge to make better choices.

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The mind and body of an addict is exhausted and powerless against the need or craving to feel completely satisfied. Unfortunately, the brain of an addict releases chemicals that cause temporary satisfaction and the addict will need help to overcome the initial stages from detox to recovery. We also know from reading and studying addictions most addictions will escalate or increase as the body builds tolerance setting the bar higher to reach a new normal.

Here’s a question to think about: What is your normal? You have the right to answer this question any way you want. This article in not meant to judge, shame or condemn anyone into doing something.
I look forward to hearing from those seriously ready to get started with a pure and committed heart for authentic lifestyle full of endless opportunities and possibilities.
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For years I’ve watched the decline of services being provided to the client who in the greatest time of need is let down either by the system or by the people who have created the system.

The client has become a commodity.
I vowed and along with my “CHAMPIONSHIP TEAM” have thrust upon making a change not only in the industry itself but the people within it.

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The days of patient brokering and mis-representation leading to liability and fraud  can no longer be the norm. Is your group or your team passionate- are you ready to grow and become bigger and better then anything that currently exists in our market?

Our goal is to be number one in the field of addiction and youth- behavioural health. Lets talk, collaborate and build the vision so we can provide the best service available to “ OUR CLIENT”

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The Movie – Starring You!

Have you ever thought about making a movie starring you and sharing your personal story to help others overcome addiction? What would your movie look like and how would your story display on the big screen? Would it be a box office smash or a flop?

Would people be encouraged by how you pushed through obstacles and life challenges and survived to tell your story? Do you know why your story is so important to understand? I believe there is power, strength, and personal growth in your story that will give you and others the confidence needed to stay healthy and celebrate better lifestyle changes. Yes, when an individual is ready and wants to stop making excuses – the normal next step is to find help and learn how to deal with life as life unfolds naturally. Think about the building blocks of how your story will stack up.

Then as you prepare the outline use three basic steps. Notice there will always be a beginning, middle and end to every story.

Start by rewinding the tape in your head until you can find a spot called the beginning – the event or feeling just before your addiction started.

For example: find the pain point – divorce, rejection, the first drink, the first inhalation, viewing internet porn, the first needle, shopping, gambling or eating to comfort that moment.

In order to begin your story. Do you see yourself on the big screen at this point? Were you happy? Were you scared? How an actor would be portraying your experience. It is important not to get too hung up or stuck in all of the details in order to make a point of reference. This approach will help structure and move you through the details to keep you focused on where you want to end up. You will gain strength by skimming through the details (like a movie) and discovering you came through even when you believed there was no way and completely impossible. We want to spend time reviewing the good stuff – the positive aspects and what is working in your life and why did you stop appreciating those things? Or how did you lose focus on what was really important? Tell me more about your strengths?

Get to the middle of your story – the maintenance part. The part where you still thought you had control of your addiction. The middle of denial. Then move on to the finish. Has your story finished yet? What would you want people to remember most about how you choose to live your life? Yes, the key word to remember is choose. We all have to make choices that will be part of our movie and those choices will spill out and affect those in your life. You can change your appearance, your habits, your friends, your job…but you can’t change unless you want to change and that change will require structure, new discipline and many hours of practice for results.

When you are ready get something to write out your thoughts – preferably pen and paper work the best. I recommend hand writing over using electronic devices to get the most from this exercise. As your eyes and mind begin to open let the pen in hand feel your words flow freely into your notes for later review. Write your script and take your time and keep asking yourself does my mess turn into my message? Or was my story a test that turned into my testimonial? How does my story help people that are headed to where I have been? How can the ending of my story prepare someone for a strong finish? Allow the questions to guide your direction. Be honest because the truth will set you free!

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The question of finding a good rehab can be answered by finding a good interventionist.

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One of the biggest misconceptions in the treatment industry and the public at large is the assumption that one just needs to get into a center and everything will be fine. That couldn’t be farther from the truth.

There are so many levels of understanding one must have in order to find the center that is right for the one who is suffering. The difference in having an interventionist involved in making those decisions as opposed to calling a treatment center on your own is that the interventionist has knowledge of many treatment centers.
Their strengths and weaknesses. He will typically know the staff right from the director to the cook. A well informed interventionist will have more then likely have been to every center he recommends and will have a working knowledge of the center and the type of programming in place. Is the center 12 step based or is it highly clinical with many types of therapies offered. CBT/MET/DBT ETC.

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 Do they have integrated care for co-occurring psychiatric disorders? Relationship/marital/ sex counseling? Nutritional/fitness counseling. Equine therapy has proven to have benefit. A big need to know is if the center in question has a medically-assisted detoxification- if so is it an extra charge. Does that cut into the program time. For example: if the client goes for 60 days but needs to detox for 10 is that part of the original 60 or is the program now a 50 day. Finally aftercare and family support.

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Treatment is only a start to ones recovery. What one comes home too and the health of those relationships is vital to long term long life wellness. An interventionist and the position is much more then what is seen on television. It is a highly skilled set of unique gifts that very few truly have. To have that person in your corner can make the difference where no other can. Lets get started and speak with one another. I can help you.

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How does your net worth impact your addiction?

Truthfully your addiction doesn’t care about you or your financial status! Matter of fact your addiction will eventually consume all of your assets and still want more leaving you unsatisfied again. Losing everything to an addiction is not the best solution to choose when you are in a position to retain professional help. Remember your net worth has nothing to do with your addiction controlling your life and holding you back from living a clean and sober lifestyle. Addiction lies to you and consumes you over time. Take a real look at yourself or someone you know struggling with an addiction. Do you or do they look better or worse today than when the addiction started?

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However, your financial status will allow you to seek out the very best recovery service available. What would the ultimate VIP at home recovery service look like to you? What if you could privately complete a treatment program from home combined with a well trained professional addiction recovery coach to monitor your daily activity? Would this 24/7 exclusive companion service interest you? Clients truly experience the very best VIP service when retaining Mike Downing and his company to stand in the gap while learning how to live sober again.

Studies indicate the brain can be reprogrammed. This learning process takes time and must be repeated several times over days and months. This is similar to working your body muscles at the gym except the brain responds to mind exercise of thought training and choosing different option to replace the void. Learning how to exercise the brain is a lot like leaning how to exercise the body. Having a personal coach will help you stay focused and get your mind and body conditioned to where you want to go moving forward. Change is difficult and virtually impossible alone without competent help.

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Do you have a reason to STOP without a hidden agenda? Tell me more about your reason and why you are ready to make a Pure Commitment to live sober and I will help you bridge the gap to freedom. Help Has Arrived!

VIP-Clients are found online through articles like this or through word of mouth. Do you or someone you know suffer from an addiction and are ready for help? These articles have a way of finding help when help is needed. If you are looking for total privacy – you found your solution. I understand the importance of having a safe environment and respect all Clients that retain my service. Meaning you will never know the names of those I have helped transition from the darkest side of an addiction into clean and sober lifestyle unless my client shares with you personally.

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VIP-Clients must complete and sign a total privacy agreement to prevent misinterpretation. Fortunately, to protect all VIP-clients we sign a legal and binding contract called the Pure Commitment agreement clearly outlining the coach / client relationship.

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Transition from rehab to living with a companion coach

This is a story from a client’s perspective on retaining a 24/7 companion service to bridge the gap from rehab to life.

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I am not going to share my name because my name is not as important as my experience working with my companion coach. The truth is I was fearful to leave treatment where I received continuous staff support and monitoring 24/7.

My story begins with my addiction and condition before checking into rehab. I will spare you the details of my addiction because we all have a story. But of course, my addiction affected everything and everyone around me. So when I decided to get help and enter a treatment center, my program pulled me outside of my normal environment (home, family, work, and friends). My daily environment where I normally escaped reality and life.
I thought for sure everything was under control when I finished treatment- until it clearly wasn’t.

Ok, I needed help and deep down inside I don’t trust myself to be left alone or continue back home without support in fear of relapse. Sure, like many of you reading this story, I was fine before my addiction started controlling my next move and taking me to places of regret time after time. Now that I had agreed and committed to live a sober life and finished my treatment program, I realized I needed help with an outpatient program from home, office or both.

How could I get the most from my companion coach while ensuring I did not become codependent?
Well first of all, I looked for a companion coach who was professionally trained and certified with a plan to help me move forward building on my sobriety. I learned successful coaches have a short term process that will gradually release me and reduce the time I spend conversing with my coach.
I was willing to invest in a private companion coach to pick me up on the day my treatment facility released me to go home. My coach would support me in making the transition from 24/7 monitored to moving back home. My house needed to be prepared for my newly committed addiction free lifestyle. My coach moved in and lived with me 24/7 to monitor my sobriety and help me get in a routine.

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During the first couple of days:
We purged the house of any unclean or unwanted triggers.
We picked up the mail, payed bills and set up a budget plan.
We created a weekly meal plan and went to the grocery store to pick up the ingredients.
We put the groceries away and started my weekly food preparation for easy homemade ready to eat meals- Heat-N-Eat style.
We talked every day about my life in the moment right now and moving forward highlighting things I can do to fill the void.
We carefully navigated my patterns, interests and strengths to draw out my solutions.
We applied the information I learned in rehab / treatment center into my daily routines.
We visited a couple support groups in my area until I found a group that I liked.
We walked and talked every day as I learned how to filter and process and decompress from the daily stress while getting exercise.

During the second week:
I had to go back to work, yes my coach went with me to make the transition smoother.
We were together 24/7, so I introduced my coach as a friend from out of town observing my business and work ethics.
We discussed market penetration, production, sales, and managing staff everything related to my job description and stress to identify hidden triggers.
Fortunately, my position with the company allow me to have an out of town friend join me at work without any confusion or additional questions.
After work we continued to repeat a lot of what I learned during the first week and tracking my progress.

By the third week:
I was feeling more confident with my own ability to function alone. I know how all the moving pieces work together at home and work without my addiction driving me to relapse.
I am so grateful to have my coach bridge the gap during the transition. My coach helped me stay focused and repeat what I learned during treatment in my real life setting. I am ready to release my coach to another client in need.

Hopefully, my story will encourage you to retain Mike Downing, Founder and President of Purecommitment.com

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AM I READY FOR A SOBER COACH ?

Five questions to ask yourself…
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You have done the work. You have completed a rehab program, detoxed yourself or completed an outpatient program. You are ready to apply all the tips and tricks and boundaries you were taught for your “new normal” life. Consider the following five points to determine if you are ready to use a sober coach;

  1. Do I need someone to help me through my friend list in social media and real life? Not only to help with conversations to cull out unhealthy friendships, but to help with establishing new friends outside of the addiction world.
  2. Am I ready to have someone assist me in removing triggers in my environment? Not just throwing out props that fueled my addiction but someone strengthening me as I discover a past hurtful note or picture that needs to be tossed. Someone to hold the trash can as I eliminate bad food, bad ideas and bad habits away that I know will emerge unexpectedly in my home environment.
  3. Do I desire a discreet companion coach as I navigate my first few social engagements as a recovered person? Someone with refined social skills who can encourage me to stay healthy in a potentially tempting situation – whether it be a business meeting, family function or social gathering.
  4. Do I want to be held accountable for my choices? Someone who will be transparent about how I am behaving and provide constructive feedback. Statistics show that it takes an average of ninety days to fully adopt a change. Accountability is an effective tool for success.
  5. Am I financially able to retain a sober coach? Service fees are based on a programs, certification, experience and availability. Rates can vary from $75.00 to $375.00 an hour depending on service and engagement. Daily, weekly or monthly rates are calculated on an hourly rate as well. Retaining a sober coach, companion or chaperone to personally support me during the early stages can run $600.00 to $1,800.00 per day plus expenses. I have just invested a large sum of money on my rehab – am I willing to invest even more to have a trained coach help me construct and frame my new routines and interactions without the fear of relapse?

Professionals agree that the highest percentage of relapse occurs within the first 120 days of implementing a change. Sober coaches are well worth your investment to ongoing success. Unlike sponsors, or sober buddies certified coaches are trained to draw out your strengths and avoid codependency. Competent coaches are trained to follow a strict code of ethics that will govern the coach / client relationship. The coaching method is to get the client back on track within a short period of time.

If you are seriously committed to a healthier lifestyle and interested in getting the best results in the shortest length of time then consider retaining Mike Downing today. Help Has Arrived!

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